Divorce.

It is a word heavy with heartache. Lately, many people have shared with me that they are either getting divorced or have recently divorced. It feels like divorce is so common now, and it breaks my heart to see something God ordained brushed aside so easily. While I understand that abuse or infidelity can make divorce necessary, the end of a marriage still feels deeply painful to me.

This pain is personal. I know it firsthand. I lived through two divorces—first, my parents’ when I was young, and later, when my first husband left me for reasons that felt unfair. Both experiences left scars that still shape how I feel when I hear about someone’s marriage ending.

Recently, I heard about a YouTube family I have followed for years announcing their divorce. It hit me harder than I expected. My heart ached for the husband and wife, but especially for their kids. I know that confusion and heartbreak all too well. Watching their pain unfold publicly made it even harder. People online shared opinions and speculations, and as an empath, it was overwhelming. Their pain felt raw and real, and it reminded me of my own.

Divorce is not just the end of a marriage. It is the breaking of dreams, trust, and family. I would never wish it on anyone. But I know that sometimes, it becomes a necessary part of someone’s story. If you are walking through that painful season, I want you to know my heart aches with you. I understand the sleepless nights, the heartbreak, and the deep loss. And I also know that healing is possible, even when it feels far away.

To those who carry the sting of divorce—whether through your parents’ separation, your own marriage, or witnessing it in others—I want you to know you are not alone. Your pain is real. Your grief is valid. And there can be peace, even after the storm.

I share this not to judge but to reach out with compassion. If you are navigating divorce or healing from it, I would love to hear your story. Because healing often begins when we know we are not alone.

With understanding and grace, Courtney